What is the “Distancer and Pursuer Dynamic?” According to the Gottman Institute, it is the emotional interplay between a person (a pursuer) who urgently seeks confrontation to resolve issues and a person (a distancer) who avoids confrontation by retreating. Mentioned prominently in the work of Dr. John Gottman, Julie Gottman, and author Terry Gaspard, this dynamic affects all of one’s relationships over a lifespan. That includes communication in family relationships when a child or partner has ADHD....

This means your child may need to develop new habits to set themselves up for success in and out of school. They may also need to unlearn old habit patterns no longer serve them well. Change is hard, especially for kids with ADHD, who typically find unfamiliar terrain unsettling. So how can you help create new habits that grow in kids with ADHD? Why bad habits can be so challenging for kids with ADHD Habits usually help us lower stress or meet an emotional need....

Therapy is especially hard in the beginning because you’re becoming aware of all the dirt you’ve been hiding under the surface for so long. Therapy doesn’t create the dirt, it just shines a spotlight on it. And if there’s one piece of relationship advice to abide by, it’s understanding this. Relationships are usually great in the beginning while you’re still seeing your new love in the best possible light. You’re seeing them as the greatest, most perfect version of themselves....

What is this affliction, this horrible issue I’m talking about? It’s craving a man who doesn’t want you! Every day, I receive hundreds of emails, all along the same lines: “I’m head over heels in love with this guy. I’d do anything for him. The trouble is, he doesn’t feel the same way. He’s becoming distant. He’s even said he doesn’t think he can be with me anymore. What can I do to get him back?...

Loving someone who doesn’t love you back quite literally is the biggest bummer of them all. Being in a one-way love situation absorbs your time, your emotions, and your mental power in ways that you feel like you have no control over, and it feels like you’re stuck with bad luck. Not only are you consumed with adoration, but you’re also consumed with the grief that accompanies unrequited love. It feels like torture and it sucks the wind out of your sails, leaving you feeling like less than you are....

Political affiliation runs deeper than simply being “right-wing” or “left-wing,” as there are a number of different values that determine what’s important to you when it comes to political parties and their candidates. The 8 Values Political Test (sometimes styles as 8values) can help you determine your political standpoint. How to Take the 8 Values Political Test Developed in 2017 on online open source community Github, the 8 Values Political Test is a 70-question quiz that asks you to rate how much you agree or disagree with each statement....

From visualization tactics to scripting to mediating with subliminals, each method is great for certain people. But to find the right method for you, it’s key to experiment with all the different methods first to see what works best. One of the shifting methods is known as the blanket method. RELATED: Follow These Steps To Shift Your Reality In Just 5 Minutes What is the blanket method? As mentioned, the blanket method is a popular reality shifting technique seen on TikTok....

Reality shifting is about guiding your consciousness from your current reality, using your visualization, affirmations and/or scripting, and then moving into the reality you desire. The idea is to change your current state of reality. One way to reality shift is by using the staircase method. Like the Julia method, raven method, elevator method, and Alice in Wonderland method, the staircase method allows you to travel past the confines of your physical existence....

The series, which is only three episodes deep, has already prompted people to question Hefner’s success that was built off of taking advantage of women. Former Playmates have been speaking out and contradicting the narrative “Playboy” once created that suggested the enterprise was all about giving power back to women and their bodies. Former Playboy mansion employees have already exposed allegations that the Playboy Bunnies were given multiple prescriptions of quaaludes, which were nicknamed “leg-spreaders....

My mother was left to pick up the pieces and carry the daily weight of playing the role of both mother and father. We lived marginally above poverty (in the apartment building pictured below) — her salary was too high to qualify for “welfare” but not high enough that she couldn’t receive reduced-price bulk milk and cheese through her local “Parents without Partners” program. Photo: Author RELATED: The GOP Healthcare Plan Is 100% A War On Women & Here’s Why Growing up in a home such as mine meant that the lines were blurred when it came to gender....

But even before my future husband and I officially tied the knot, I told myself that if it didn’t work out, this marriage would be the one and only time. In my mind, you get one shot at such a thing. While I don’t judge those who have multiple marriages under their belt, I wonder how they reconcile by doing it over and over again. At some point, one has to admit that maybe they’re bad at marriage and, because of that, maybe they should refrain from doing it....

I left because marriage is a lot harder than it should be and I have spent the last several months mentally checking out from our partnership so as to avoid getting any more hurt by his behavior and actions that seemed so similar to what we experienced back in 2009. I was convinced it was over and had very brave plans in place to move forward with my life in a way I never did because I was married three months after my 19th birthday....

I then did what no vagina-having person should ever do: I spent the remainder of the day in my damp swimsuit. The next morning I woke up to two unfortunate realities: a ridiculous Raz-ber-ita hangover and widespread vaginal burn. Sh*t. After popping a few pain relievers and WebMD-ing myself with a urinary tract infection, I began the arduous process of drowning my internal organs with all the water and 100% pure (and repulsive) cranberry juice I could get my mitts on in a desperate attempt to rid my lady bits of Satan’s static burn....

My fear didn’t manifest overnight. I’ve been on more airplanes than most people can dream of, from short helicopter rides to 18-hour flights to Korea. I’ve had close calls as a passenger. It’s a hopeless feeling and for a brief period, you have the uncertainty of ever seeing your loved ones again. RELATED: A 3-Step Plan For Coping With Anxiety (That Actually Works) I’ve also had the misfortune of seeing one of my aircraft crash upon takeoff....

And the notion that true love means to be accepting of your partner’s best and worst qualities complicates things further. The line between accepting abuse and being tolerant of their flaws is especially blurred in the eyes of someone dangerously in love. They might see a partner being controlling as a way of him or her showing how much they love them. But the truth is, a relationship that’s unbalanced in any form is an unhealthy one....

Why is it when someone is giving you all the clear signs that they are not interested, we don’t listen? When someone says to you that they aren’t looking for anything serious right now, you try harder? Why is it that even when we are honest with someone and say that this really isn’t the best time for dating right now, they still persist? Why do we not accept no as an answer and move on?...

It’s sometimes almost impossible to wake up in the morning to face another day. You finally get up, put on a good face, go to work or school. You do your best. But, the hours drag by and you can’t wait to get home and be finished. Life isn’t happy at all. Maybe you’re even starting to wonder what it’s all about. Will you ever find anything interesting or fun?...

I am sure that many of you have been told to love yourself first. What does loving yourself entail? How do we conquer this? What are the benefits? I think we need to unpack this statement and recognize the confidence it takes to truly love yourself in a generation that dictates what it means to be a successful man or woman. After a few tries, I finally learned how to love myself....

The kid pulled himself to the end of the cord and strained against it. We giggled harder. Even at five, I knew kids on leashes were lame. My sister and I would actively ridicule any kids we saw tied to them. It meant that the kid’s mom was too sadistic to put him in a stroller. I don’t laugh at kids on leashes anymore. I feel bad for them, especially the kids with the monkey backpacks....

Penny Umbers and Mark Bethel met in the 1970s in the UK when Bethel attended Trent College, near Nottingham. Bethel, originally from the Bahamas returned home and continued to send love letters to Umbers. Soon, Bethel returned to the UK to attend a college in London. Umbers also attended a university nearby and they continued their relationship. But, interracial relationships were still a taboo at the time. After Bethel’s parents stopped financially supporting him and after Umbers’ father threatened to have his scholarship revoked if he did not end the relationship, he was forced to make a decision....