Posting to the subreddit ‘AITA’ (Am I The A-hole), the father, 35, explained that he is a single dad and has been very accepting of his sons’ creativity. “I think it’s important for children to be creative so they find their true passion in life. My son (12) is really into fashion and I’m sure he’ll do wonderful things in the fashion industry,” the man wrote in his Reddit post. Through his son, the man learned about gender spectrum and many other concepts that he wasn’t familiar with. His son told him that he wanted to appeal to both the female and male gaze, and wanted to wear more suits, dresses, and makeup. RELATED: Man Threatens To Cut Son’s College Fund After Learning He Isn’t Biologically His, Sparking Debate While the man doesn’t mind if his son wears dresses, while getting ready for school, he saw his son putting on one of his new sundresses to wear for the day. “I thought he was just trying out different outfits at first, so I went down to get prepare some breakfast. When he came [down] I saw him still wearing the dress, but this time he had his backpack on. So I asked if he was wearing it to school,” the man continued.
When his son said that he was wearing the dress to school, the father told him he couldn’t because he’d be bullied.
The father later says, in the post, that he lives in Arlington, Texas, and seems to be concerned that people will not be accepting. “I’ll spare you the details of the argument that we had, but he eventually took it off and wore boys’ clothing. He was very upset at me though and cried during his ride to school.” The man explained that he does want his son to be happy and secure in who he is, but not at the expense of how his classmates will treat him, which he described as being “cruel.” “I don’t want him to experience that type of treatment from his peers,” the man concluded. RELATED: Dad Asks If He’s Wrong For ‘Encouraging’ His Daughter To Be A Housewife Most people under the man’s Reddit post agreed that he was the a-hole in the situation. “If he is crying because you won’t let him wear the clothes he wants, he truly and genuinely wants to wear it. He’s not afraid of getting ‘bullied.’ And who’s to say he will get bullied?” one user wrote. Another user added: “Based on the above info, it looks like you support him just as long as he doesn’t bring his creativity outside. Looks like you’re the one that’s not comfortable because someone might see your son wearing girl clothes.”
While some users bashed the father for not letting his son wear a dress, others sympathized with him.
“[He] stated in another comment that he lives in Texas. His reasons for not letting his son wear the dress might be less to do with bigotry and more to do with ‘I don’t want the state to take my son from me and charge me with abuse’,” one user wrote. While the man didn’t specify if his son was transgender, the Texas Supreme Court recently cleared the way for the state child welfare agency to resume investigating parents and doctors who provide gender-affirming care for trans youth, according to NPR. It’s caused many Texas families with transgender children to depart the state or consider moving because of the threat of an impending investigation that Gov. Greg Abbott likens to being synonymous with child abuse. Another user added: “This is a Republican county with blue pockets and [not the a-hole] to the father, it is absolutely better to play it safe. He should absolutely explain that to the kid.” RELATED: Woman Wonders If She’s Wrong For Asking Stepdaughter To Wake Up Early To Make Breakfast For Her Kids Nia Tipton is a writer living in Brooklyn. She covers pop culture, social justice issues, and trending topics. Keep up with her on Instagram and Twitter.
