Below is a list of guys that no one (of any age) shouldn’t spend a second with once you figure them out. Don’t try to change them. Don’t try to help them overcome their commitment phobia. Instead, just run! After all, the more time you spend with the wrong person, the more time it will take you to meet the right person. RELATED: How To Know If You Have A Fear Of Commitment (& How To Overcome It)
Kick these five going-nowhere fellas aside because dating them only leads to heartbreak.
1. The Mama’s Boy
We’ve all dated a guy like this. He doesn’t make decisions without his mom’s input. You might recognize a variation of some of these other guys on the list mixed in with the mommy’s boy as well. (For example, he could also be non-committal because he is already committed to his main squeeze: His mother.) A way to spot a Mama’s Boy is when his mother helps him pick out his house (or clothes), and not you. He asks her opinion, not your opinion. And if mommy must come over to take care of him when he is sick, and he is 30, you definitely have one of these guys on your hand. Lose this dude quicker than a bad habit because you don’t want to end up doing his laundry and sorting out his life.
2. The Non-Committal Guy
Ladies, you have heard this before, and you will hear it again. If he says he doesn’t want a commitment, he means it and you need to respect that! You aren’t going to change his mind. And you’re never going to get what you truly want sticking around waiting for him to see the light and get over his commitment issues. Dump this guy, and turn around to find the love of your life.
3. The Player
This guy is out for one thing only and his main function is to play. If he does marry you, guess what? He’ll still act like a player, only this time you’ll call him a serial cheater. RELATED: What It’s Really Like To Love A Commitment-Phobe He doesn’t want a serious relationship, and neither should you because with this guy you’re wasting your time. You can easily spot him on Facebook with all the hot women in his photos. Drop him AND his special type of commitment phobia.
4. The Narcissist
We have all seen this guy before, too — the pretty boy with sociopathic tendencies mixed in. You might confuse the narcissist for a player, or the plain ‘ol non-committal type. But he actually is in a very real relationship… with himself. There is no room for you, your needs, or your issues because he is far too obsessed with himself. Sorry, but the pattern will never change with this guy. Good luck finding an available mirror when he is around.
5. The Flake
Women get called flaky all the time but, the truth is men are just as flaky. And when you combine that with wishy-washy, you have a real problem on your hands. You can never take this guy seriously. He’s the type of guy you end up in a text-relationship with, who says he’s so into you yet can never make time for a real date where you can really talk. Maybe he doesn’t know what he wants to do with his life (even though he’s 40). Maybe he does want to take you out, but can’t make the most basic decision on whether it’s a movie or dinner. Yeah, you’re going to get tired of this guy real quick. Throw him back because he isn’t a keeper either. RELATED: How To Know If You’re Really Ready For A Relationship Susan Trombetti has been seen on Fox, ABC, NBC, ABC, Cosmopolitan, Shape, and as a guest contributor of The Wall Street Radio. As a leading celebrity matchmaker, relationship expert, and CEO of Exclusive Matchmaking, she has helped discerning singles across the country discover long-term relationships and partnerships that are both rewarding and fulfilling.
